Your state of mind can very much alter the way you live your life. Many people vouch for the fact that, if you think positive thoughts, you will attract positive things to your life, while if you only think negatively about everything that happens to you, the opposite will follow.
I, like many others, can attest to this. It is impossible for someone to keep being positive on all aspects of life forever, but you control what you think and that is enough to start changing your negative mindset.
Not that long ago I was in a very bad place – anxiety, depression and bad thoughts followed. I didn’t know what I had done to deserve such bad luck and why everything was going so wrong all at once. I thought, based on what I could see on social media, that everyone’s life was just perfect and I couldn’t understand why mine was not like that.
I have always been a positive and energetic person, so that was possibly one of the darkest times in my life. I felt alone, I felt misunderstood and, above all, I felt like I didn’t deserve everything that was happening to me. That’s when someone came into my life and changed everything.
I opened myself up to someone who was the most positive and happy person I had ever met. We might’ve not been a perfect much, but being around that person reminded me of the power os positivity, of not saying no to everything, of opening myself up to the world. It reminded me that negative thoughts lead to negative emotions, and negative emotions usually lead to an unhappy life. I was reminded that, if instead of pointing out the negative I simply focus on the positive, life will look much better in perspective.
Ups and downs have ensued, but I didn’t go back to that low point in life. I no longer wanted to keep away from society, and I no longer felt like I wasn’t worth anyone’s time.
So why am I writing this?
Recently, I have felt myself become more and more negative, and thus away from my friends again. I want to put a stop to that and reminder myself of why happiness and love is the only answer:
- Positive thoughts attract positive things
Do you know when there’s change in your life and you tend to focus on all the little aspects that are not perfect? Instead, focus on all things you are glad have changed, how this change can bring you new opportunities.
- Surround yourself with positive people
Unfortunately, no matter how many times to try to help someone else see the positive things in life, some people are just not ready to see it that way just yet. I am not saying cut everyone out of your life that may think negatively, but it’s good to keep away from engaging with constant negative comments, and instead focus on the friend that always seems to focus on the good in life.
- Don’t change yourself to please others
The fact you don’t agree with someone doesn’t mean you should criticize them each time… but it also doesn’t mean you should agree with everything they say. Remaining true to yourself is one of the most important aspects in ensuring you are happy with your life.
- Hugs are important
Get as many hugs throughout the day as possible. Spread the love.
- Say yes more often
Yes is a very powerful word. While it doesn’t mean doing things you are not comfortable with, say no to every opportunity presented to yourself means you may miss out on a lot of good things in life. How many of you ever think “If I hadn’t gone to that pub that day, I probably would not have met my best friend”? Life works in funny ways, and the more you get out, the more chances you have of meeting someone crucial to your life in the future.
- Stop complaining
By all this, I don’t mean that you should not have a voice and you shouldn’t express yourself when you’re unhappy. It doesn’t mean you should do everything you’re asked to do just because you don’t want to say no. It just means that, whenever you focus too much on each negative aspect in your life, you generate negative energy. This negative energy can be very draining, and it usually creates a never-ending cycle of negativity that ends up affecting others. Spread the love and try to understand why some things happen in life – sometimes it is not altogether that bad, it just needs a little perspective.