Your Pain Isn’t Worse Than Mine
There is one kind of person that gets to me – the one that loves feeling so miserable all the time that no one, at any point in time, can feel worse than them.
I’ve had moments in my life where I was feeling so tired and down that I started complaining out loud more than I usually do (I always try to be as positive as possible), but guess what? People wouldn’t allow me to not feel good, and not for the right reasons.
Any time I’d say: “I feel so tired, I studied all day yesterday and still have so much to do”, they’d reply with “Pff, you’re tired? I should be the one to say I’m tired, I worked an 8 hour shift and then studied all night, you shouldn’t even be tired.”
Well guess what? Two people are allowed to be very tired at the same time for different amounts of work, specially when other factors (anxiety disorder eating away energy) are in play.
For me, people who must always put others down for feeling bad, saying they’re the ones that should be complaining, are not only very negative people, but they love basking in their negativity. They love putting others down because they feel like they’ve earned their pain, while others haven’t.
I’ve heard this great saying once, and I’ll say it here in case you’re one of these people: no one’s pain is worse, and no one’s pain is better. Pain is subjective and varies according to many factors that only pertain to the person suffering. You have no idea how anyone else apart from yourself is feeling.
While someone’s worse pain may be going through a break-up, and another person’s worse pain may be having to fight cancer, no one’s to say that one pain is superior and another is inferior. Both people are suffering and both are going through a hard time, they shouldn’t have to mask their pain just because someone else may be “suffering more”.
Okay, this was a little bit of a rant so I’m not sure how concise that was, but do you know anyone who also behaves like this? What do you think of these situations? Let me know, please (genuinely interested)!