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Is This Where You’re Meant to Be?

How do you know if you’re where you’re meant to be? Before I moved to London, I definitely felt stuck, and while in my home country I was happy with there I grew up, I knew there was more out there for me, more opportunities and more to see.

I decided to move to London as I wanted to live in an English-speaking country (an amazing language with many more opportunities, and even though it wouldn’t be my first choice as an English-speaking country, it was the easiest to access and the closest to home). But I’ve never truly felt like I belong here.

I always get excited when I’m coming back to London after a long trip away, and I do love this city, but something doesn’t feel completely perfect. I love Brighton, but I would not be able to move my whole life there, so it wouldn’t make sense to make this change.

I guess what I’m wondering is – does anyone ever fully reach that stage in life where you know you’re exactly where you belong? Like all the pieces fall into place in your life and you know you’ve finally achieved your goals? Or is that all just a myth?

Because this city is amazing, but I guess I would expect to already have many friends here and to feel like all the pieces of the puzzle had come together.

Let me know your views below 😉

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15 thoughts on “Is This Where You’re Meant to Be? Leave a comment

  1. I’m currently living in my eighteenth different place – across four countries and many US states. I’m very accustomed to the feeling of not having a “home town”. My current home, Cincinnati, OH is a surprisingly lovely place. But my satisfaction and sense of belonging here is made possible by my hard-gained wisdom that there is no magic in any place. Or said another way, every place has its own magic. You just need to be open to the uniqueness of a place. (Now having said that, I have known places that are nearly miserable – due to the restrictive culture in place, not the geographical location – but these places exist at the extreme).

    However, I’ve often wondered if this inexhaustible sense of wanderlust we feel is simply an evolutionarily-driven urge of the human species. When we feel that draw to the far horizon, is that the same urge that drove our ancestors to push ever outwards to every nook and cranny of the world – even parts with extremely harsh living environments? Is it a lingering biological imperative that we must be mindful of and short-circuit to experience satisfaction and a sense of belonging in where we are now? With no survival need or need to find resources for which others aren’t competing, do we no longer need to feed that urge to feel fulfilled? Or is it an inconsolable ache?

    Maybe that answer is different for different people. Maybe humanity never needed everyone to be driven mad by wanderlust, but only just a few – enough to drive the geographic expansion of our species. And those of us feeling that ache just got that genetic tweak in our brains.

    For me, I’ve found that frequent travel reminds me of the magic of where I call home now and reminds me that no matter where I go, I will always have an eye on the horizon. That urge will never completely fade, no matter where I go.

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  2. In my experience, this just means you haven’t untapped your full potential! Dig deeper and see what you’re missing within you. If you like to read, the Alchemist and You Are The One are great for this!

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  3. Your where your supposed to be right now. It’s where you are, you never have to stay anywhere nor do you need to move right away. From what I gather from your piece, you are curious, that’s a start. After all I’ve been through, I know I am where I am supposed to be, the fun part is understanding why. Gratitude for life is where I ended up and being pleased with where I was knowing, I can change it. We are free for the most part right? What are interested in and what inspires you? Get yourself ingrained in the cracks of where you are internally. Make where you are a part of you and not a need to have to be a part of it. Be well.

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  4. I think that for many people who move around it’s difficult not to feel settled in any particular place; different places will have different features that ground us in some way. When we travel or move this is a part of our life’s journey, so, we are still journeying, and growing. To feel settled therefore might mean to feel stuck.

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  5. Your post reminds me of the book I just started reading.
    John Steinbeck’s “Travels with Charley.”
    If you read part 1, the first paragraph, he describes your feelings.
    You are in good company.
    Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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  6. Your experience reminds me of my teacher’s experience as someone who migrated from Switzerland to Australia. In Switzerland, her German accent will not blend in with the French Swiss, yet she does not sound truly Australian even after living decades here. But she has friends who accept her as she is no matter what she sounds like, as well as students she treat dearly like her children. Language always make you feel like you belong somewhere, or not, yet there are times it does not matter anymore.
    After living and studying in Australia for a year, I feel like I would like to continue working and living here. It is more quiet and I can spend more time outdoors by the sea, playing guitar and living more independently.
    I would worry about this and that sometimes, but I don’t think I will feel like I would enjoy struggling until I attain my ideal life – a stable job, my own home and all that. It would take years to tick all those boxes. Having friends who migrated here helps with coping with the ups and downs. There are ‘safe places’ I go to that feel perfectly right at that moment, like running along a beach trail, so I would go there to recharge. I don’t live there, or even near there.
    It’s hard to imagine committing the rest of your life to a place because people come and go, you may have changed, or the place has changed. At the same time, there is a quiet serenity in living in a place where not many people know you and just do their own thing.

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      • Yeah. Sometimes starting a new life from scratch can be quite different from what I think it would be like, but after getting used to it, I wake up feeling like ‘I’m glad I moved here’.

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  7. Enjoyed this article; really good questions! It’s been my experience that the perfect falling into place feeling comes in “moments”, more than a finish line.
    The accomplishment feeling came when I paid more attention to how important all the moments are.

    For me, the trick is more about two practices I have to keep up to stay balanced: Recognizing the beauty, and happiness anywhere I happen to be, and, having the curiosity to never stop exploring for new experiences.

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  8. I’m in my 40’s and I’m still trying to figure out where I am meant to be. So when you figure it out please lemme know. If it helps you in any way, you are not alone with this.

    On a separate note, I love British and Irish accents. I am going to have to cross the pond if for no other reason than to fulfill this dream of immersing myself with people that sound so cool. Lol

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